Archives for December 2013

Stewarding Wealth: How to Ask Friends & Family for Money to Start, Support, or Grow Your Business In a Way that Really Benefits the World

Do you have wealthy parents, friends or other loved ones who would be open to supporting your business if only you knew how to ask?

Would you love to feel like you are an amazing steward of wealth for the good of the world?

Watch this training call with Alexis Neely & Amrita Khalsa and discover:

  • How to request financial support for your business from friends, family and other loved ones in a way that makes them want to say yes (and what to do if they say no or not right now)
  • How to know how much to ask for and trust yourself that you’ll know what to do with it when you receive it
  • How to invest the money that you do receive via gift, loan or inheritance so you feel phenomenal about stewarding wealth in a way that really benefits the world
  • The single best structure for receiving wealth that incentivizes maximum wealth creation and decreases risk of lawsuits, loss to divorce or other creditors

This is for you if you have wealthy family, friends or loved ones & you want to make sure that when you ask them to support your business, and they say yes, or when they give you money, you understand how to receive it and steward it in the very best way possible.

By the way, love, I’d like to know… what else can we do to serve you? We’d love your input here (tell us what support you most need):

Thank you for your glowing feedback & questions on the live Hangout (please ask your questions & share comments at the bottom of this post, I would love to answer them for you)…

Ali_Shanti“bingo! thank you so much! reveal my heart more. There's so much potential for wealth of connection far beyond money here! just hearing these things spoken of is so valuable!” – Aimée

“Could you be any more brilliant, woman?!” – Brad Axelrad

“This is beautiful information, what a gift.” – Linda

“What if my Dad, the steward of my family's wealth, has specifically already said he DOES NOT want to invest in a child's business (mine) but underneath this wall – I know this is a good decision – how can i push back strongly without being pushy??” – E

“I've asked my family for financial support for my coaching business (e-courses) and they said yes! Now, I need to know an amount of money. I don't have to pay it back- they just want me to use wisely. Any thoughts on how much to ask for? I'm thinking 10K.” – N

“How do I nurture and grow trust with my uncle who I'm just getting to know while at the same time approaching him for a financial gift?” – A

“Why is it that you think we (and lottery winners for example) sabotage our new influx of cash?” – B

“When I inherit money for the purpose of helping / giving others as the criteria, what is the best way to invest this money, tax wise, business entity wise as the executor of this wealth?” – H

Alexis Neely is a multiple million-dollar entrepreneurial strategist & “Lawyer You Love” who has created a unique way for you to ask for and receive the money you need to start, support or grow a business that really benefits the world.

New Economy: Beyond Competition & Violence for Our Survival

[Note from Ali: this is a guest post from new economy icon, Daniel Schmachtenberger.  With this post, I am inviting Daniel into a continuing dialogue I look forward to you all participating in — here in the comments — that will open all of our eyes to the shifts we can make now in how we show up to lead the way into the new economy.]

In today's new economy post, Daniel wakes us up to where we came from, why we may do a lot of the things we do, and how we can begin to make a more conscious choice about where we go from here.  Competitive, violent, survival-based conditioning was once necessary and, now, our survival itself depends on us consciously making a shift to the next level.

Evolution and the survival of our planet requires that the one's of us who survive now are those who are able to collaborate, connect and thrive the way the flowers did during the time of the first radiation.  The flowers would not have flourished in a culture where competition and violence were required.  They had to find another way.

And, so do we. Read on and I'll add a bit more commentary about the new way and your part in it after Daniel's article.  See ya there.


Article by Daniel Schmachtenberger: 

In earlier human history there were cultures that had a deep awareness of interconnectedness, and had economic and value systems based on shared interest. These cultures (usually matriarchal or matrifocal) had more communal than individual ownership, collective decision making rather than command and control hierarchies, and valued quality of life rather than conquest. They invested in arts, crafts, spirituality, study, and human connection rather than in militaries, castles, and expanding territory.

While these cultures produced a higher quality of life for their people with less resources more sustainably, they we


ren't good at protecting themselves from warring cultures. The dominator cultures won in an unconscious natural selection process determined by war, not merit. And when two violent cultures met at war, the more successfully violent one triumphed, subsumed the strengths of the other one, and grew.

The cultures (and memes) that proliferated did so not because they were good but because they were proliferative. Humanity today is the distillation of the most successfully violent cultures throughout history and our world view the distillation of the most successful violence supporting memes.

Today, technology has made our capacity for violence and domination greater than the biosphere can continue to support. What has got us here is now threatening us going further. We must upgrade to a conscious selection of what is good and viable rather than the natural selection of what is dominant. This is a fundamental evolution of evolution itself.Originally posted on Facebook here.

About Daniel Schmachtenberger  

Daniel SDaniel is a social engineer and evolutionary philosopher and strategist. He is the founder of Critical Path Institute, a research and design iniative aimed at developing an integrated set of technologies and processes capable of organizing and supporting a distributed and continually updating comprehensive critical path management system for humanity's total evolution.

He is working to repurpose and synthesize relevant state-of-the-art systems for information management, complexity processing, mathematical forecasting, and other data science tools into an integrated set of functions capable of global resource allocation planning and strategy. His aim is the shortest path to a fundamentally redesigned world-system that makes possible and supports the highest quality of life for all life, now and ongoingly.

Specifically, his focus is on the development of new systems of economics and governance that intrinsically incentivize life-enhancing behaviors at all levels of agency, supporting distributed and spontaneous problem solving and conscious participation in our global evolution.

[Note from Ali: Can you see evidence in your own life that we are the distillation of the most successfully violent cultures? You may find yourself disagreeing, shaking your head and thinking, “no, we aren't violent” perhaps comparing us to the characters in the Game of Thrones and recognizing just how far we have come. After all, we no longer fear being beheaded by the temperamental King or Queen.  Or, do we?

In my life, I see evidence of violence and unhealthy competition in the ways my children snap at each other.  I see it in blogs like this one where people are cheering on a fight between a well-known TV show producer and a sensitive passenger on the same flight. (It turns out, the fight was fabricated, but the lust for the fight represented in the comments of the blog were not.)  I see it in the shows America loves — Jerry Springer, the Real Housewives.  We crave drama.

We endlessly compare ourselves.  (At least, I do.  Do you as well? I call it comparison despair when I slip into it. It can be painful and almost never improves my life.)

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And, while it may not yet look as if we are the people of the Capitol in the Hunger Games series, obsessed with fashion, parties, entertainment while people in our world are starving, opressed and living in poverty (or maybe we actually already are),  it's definitely one of the directions we could be heading if we don't heed Daniel's warning and make a conscious shift now.

The first step is we must wake up now to where we are violent (to ourselves and those around us), where we are competitive in ways that are unhealthy, and how we may be sending our children in to fight for the death, simple so we can be entertained.

Waking up becomes first because if we can't see it, we can't feel it and if we can't feel it, we can't heal it.

So, are you ready? Are you ready to take a good hard look at where we may have been asleep about that? If so, let's discuss in the comments.  Perhaps Daniel will come chat with us there as well.  Please also read the comments on Daniel's original post on Facebook where people began to lay out a vision of a new future. One in which we are most definitely not the people of the Capitol, but instead creating a new humanity that is sustainable for all.

Let's hear it. Where have you been asleep (or see asleepness among people in your life) around violence?  I'll share there shortly myself.

How Do You Know When You’re Ready to Launch Your Great Work Online?

A lot of you have been asking me lately: how do I know when I'm ready to launch my Great Work online? How do I plan my first online product launch?

There are actually Three Phases to launching your work online. You need to know what they are, plus how to know which one you’re ready for.

I also want you to know about a big mistake I see people making all the time that costs them time, money and energy in launching the wrong way, and how you can avoid it.

This is all about YOUR Financial Liberation.

liberationquoteAs my partner Alexis Neely (you also know her as Ali Shanti) always says, Financial Liberation is knowing that you can earn what you need, as you need it, on demand.

At Eyes Wide Open Life that's what we're all about: teaching you how create Financial Liberation, through your own Great Work, through the vehicle of your own business.

We know that you have gifts to give to the world, you have service that you're here to do for people, you've got amazing expertise and thought leadership. We're here to help you get it out there.

The Three Phases of Launching Your Great Work to the World:

1. Phase 1: Launch Your Practice
2. Phase 2: Build Your Home & List Online
3. Phase 3: Turn Your Great Work Into Leveraged Offers

417405_501321023261424_1735896562_nPhase 1: Launch Your Practice

You're ready for Phase 1 if you know you've got a message, a calling, gifts to offer people… but you haven't really done it yet.

Maybe you're working another job and you're ready for a transition, maybe you're just discovering what your purpose is on the planet… either way, you know you've got this work inside you ready to be birthed, but you haven't really done it very much.

The first step for you is to fill your practice with one-on-one clients.

This is so essential for you because:

  • You're going to start gaining confidence and experience in your work;
  • You're going to start knowing how to talk about what you do because you'll get really fluent in what people need when they come to you, what they're struggling with, and what their needs and desires are;
  • You'll start getting testimonials and social proof;
  • And you'll start earning revenue from your Great Work.

This is the foundation of launching your work to the world in a big way. Even if you know you're a Star Creator and you've got a huge message that you want to reach a big audience, you still need to start by delivering your work one-on-one with people to gain experience and results. We want you to do this in a really grounded, solid and stable way where you're always financially well. This is the first really grounded step.

2013-05-06 08.14.42Phase 2: Build Your Home & List Online

From that foundation, you're now ready to build a website that communicates who you are, who you serve, and what you do for them.

Your “Online Home” needs to communicate this it in a very compelling way where people come to your site and they immediately know what they're here for & what's in it for them, so they instantly know if you're the right one that they want to be in relationship with.

Launching yourself at Phase 2 also includes relationship building: choosing a list-building strategy (there are so many to choose from, so you've got to know which one is the one that's going to work for YOU), and having a Lead Generation Magnet (the gift you offer that inspires people to exchange their precious contact information with you).


Phase 3: Turn Your Great Work Into Leveraged Offers 

Once you've got a home online, you've got a list, and you've got experience working with clients, now you're ready to turn your Great Work into leveraged offers (group programs, mastermind programs, home study courses, licensing & certification)… all of these things open up for you at this point.

There are lots of fine points to launching at Phase 3! Ali and I recently did a whole training call on this so if you want our deeper training on the Multi-Orgasmic Launch Model (which helps you with either Phase 2 or Phase 3) you can hear the recording at

Don't Make This Mistake

The mistake I see so many people making is trying to jump ahead too soon. I see a lot of people who are starting at Level Zero right now, trying to launch at Level Three.

I'm not going to say that's not possible, because anything's possible, and there are the rare cases when people are able to do that. Usually however they've had some kind of unfair advantage that you may not even know about, such as connections or a wealth of resources. Those are the rare exceptions, and what we're advising you to do is to approach the launch of your Great Work in a really solid way, where you're not going to invest tens of thousands of dollars trying to launch yourself for something that you're just not ready for. That's the mistake I don't want you to make.

Please take this advice in, be honest about where you are.


It's fine, it's all part of the process. It is a HUGE process, it's not something that happens overnight. We're talking about developing the body of your thought leadership — it's just like nourishing a baby. No one expects a baby to grow up to be a mature adult within a number of months, and it's the same with your sustainable, financially liberated business.

There's a process to it.

Start where you are.

I would love to know your questions! This is what we're here for, to support you with this process. So please ask them below right here, and I will be happy to answer you.

– Amrita