Archives for May 2016

EEEEEE!!!!!! This is big news…

May 26, 2016 by influexwp Leave a Comment

It’s been a LONG time coming. I’ve known I’d be writing my next book for years (my first book, the best-selling book on legal planning for parents, Wear Clean Underwear, was published back in 2008), but each time I sat down to write the proposal, it just didn’t feel ready.

While I had sense of the concepts for my next book, they hadn’t been fully tested in my own life.

I was in process and though I love to share while I’m in process (primarily these days via Facebook), I couldn’t write a book until I was on the other side.I knew I had a radically new understanding of why and how we were getting screwed over chasing financial freedom that could rarely, if ever, be reached and that there was another way (which I now understand asfinancial liberation) and I could see the vision and the big picture, I didn’t have enough detail level case studies of people I had seen through the process for me to truly KNOW that what I knew wasn’t just me making shit up.

And until I was truly SURE and had seen the proof with my own eyes, I simply couldn’t sell the book to a publisher.

Well, after a major astrological shift in my chart this past January, and many, many proven case studies including my own, I finally felt ready to get the book proposal finished.
I had a great agent, met with five big publishers last week and this week I got notice that the book has been picked up!The manuscript is due December 1. And the book will be published in the Fall of 2017.

Working title: Enough! The Money Wake-Up Call to Reclaim Your Time, Energy and Attention in Service to a Life Worth Living.

Over the next several days, we’ll have some big news to announce about how YOU can be part of this movement to support more people to come into right relationship with time, money and how we get paid.

Stay tuned …

With so much love,

Ali

PS — I’ve started recording an informal podcast series with a good friend of mine, George Kao, where we are talking about income models, how to choose them consciously, how to get into a place where you are investing consciously in how you build your income in alignment with your life, instead of chasing the next bright shiny thing that captures your attention that you may or may not need. I’ll let you know as soon as the first recording is available. Watch this space.

Individuation and Motherhood in the New Economy

May 3, 2016 by influexwp Leave a Comment

I was really resistant to the idea of my kid getting a job. I had this idea that I wanted her to get started on the entrepreneur path ASAP.

I had started working at restaurant jobs at 14 and didn't come to entrepreneurship (reluctantly) until after law school and a few years of practice.

I thought she could learn from me, skip the job route and go straight into business and get a huge head start.

But she wanted the job, perhaps in rebellion to my wishes for her to start a business (individuation is so important).

So she went out and found one at the local bagel shop.

And it's so good.

I'm remembering that there is a huge value to the experience of minimum wage/restaurant jobs.

She'll come to entrepreneurship, if she does, with a far broader spectrum of experience.

And she's already started to consider how she can make more money, seeing that minimum wage isn't enough to live on.

Her creativity and motivation is sparked to a far greater degree than it was when I was overly encouraging and supporting her to explore business ideas without having had the experience of the $300 paycheck for two weeks of nearly full time work.

How do you work with your children in this way? Do they have jobs? Entrepreneurial ideas? Send me an e-mail at alexis@eyeswideopenlife.com to let me know.

Love beyond the beyond,

Ali

How to hire the right lawyer for YOU

May 2, 2016 by influexwp Leave a Comment

Before you hire a lawyer – ever – make sure that lawyer truly has your best interests in mind.

It could significantly impact your life.

Over the past few days, I've again seen the tragedy that happens when people hire lawyers who are economically incentivized (due to practicing under the traditional, old paradigm model) to do harm and escalate fear.

Unfortunately, this is more of the norm than any of us would like to see and I share this reminder so you can ensure you are not sucked in by this paradigm.

And so you can choose wisely when you are in need of good lawyering support.

The illness of the legal profession is hidden and insidious and preys on the worst part of us for the personal gain of lawyers who simply don't know any better.

As some of you know, I train lawyers.

I do it because I went to law school to make a difference in people's lives and I quickly saw that in too many cases, lawyers are being corrupted by the economic model of lawyering to do more harm than good.

Today, I teach a New Law Business Model to give lawyers a model that aligns their desire to truly help and serve w the economics of building a life and practice they love.

My hardest job by far is finding lawyers who can make the shifts in their consciousness to actually do this work.

The conditioning is so deep.

It's up to you to have your eyes open to this conditioning in your hiring process.

This can be challenging because typically when you are hiring a lawyer you are already in fear or conflict and easily sucked into more of the same.

Here's what you can do …

If you talk to a lawyer who is escalating your fear rather than supporting you to find a space of calm and de-escalating conflict or fear, pause.

Do not hire that lawyer.

When you need a lawyer, always seek one who opens your heart more, who calms your fears, who focuses on solutions and resolution.

The fate of your life and our world depends on it.

Make love, not war. World peace begins with how you handle your next conflict. Be the change and choose well.

Love beyond the beyond,

Ali

Show up for your Self, show up for the world

May 2, 2016 by influexwp Leave a Comment

A new friend I met this weekend said something profound that is sticking with me …

“The problem with this world is that the wrong people are hating themselves.”

I notice that when I make a mistake, I beat myself up for it quite significantly. This beating up of self doesn't help me to learn from the mistake any more quickly or better, and it doesn't make the world a better place.

I'm a heartfelt person and if I could more quickly forgive myself, I'd be able to use the lesson of my mistake to more rapidly make (and be) change in the world.

But often I can get stuck in the self-judgment in a way that keeps me from impacting as much as I probably could otherwise.

My friend pointed out that Stalin and Hitler weren't sitting around in self hatred and I could see the application to some of the people in our own current online world who I personally know to be misogynists, or greedy, or truly hurtful, not heart-centered people and yet who are making a huge impact — they aren't sitting around holding themselves back with their self-hatred (though maybe the world would be a better place if they did).

Are you heart-centered, loving person who is holding yourself back with self-judgment and self-hatred? If so, let's stop doing that together. We need all of you out here, showing up with love for yourself and others, not getting stuck in the self-hatred.

Own your mistakes, forgive yourself, and keep being awesome.