As promised, I am sharing with you my own personal process of how I make choices about how to best use my time, energy, attention and money (TEAM) resources in service to you making your own right-aligned choices so you can have a life worth living.
I am LOVING your responses and reminded of why I desire to allocate some of my TEAM resources to writing to you. I feel so nourished by your replies and reflections. Thank you!
If you've missed the first two posts in the series, you can catch up on them here on my blog.
Here's why this is so important to me…
I believe when we've all made right-aligned choices, we will come into harmony with ourselves, each other and the planet.
And to me that equals sustainability.
So the first thing I want to share with you about my process is a noticing around where I get off track.
I tend to make poor choices about the use of my TEAM resources when I am unaware of my motivations.
When that's the case, I am driven by subconscious, mostly hidden even from me, patterns and stories created by my past experiences instead of by conscious, creative, heart-centered choices about the kind of life I want to have and the world I want to live in.
As a result, instead of experiencing the outcomes I want, I experience the outcomes that are a natural extension of those past stories and experiences.
An infinite loop of repeating patterns. Can you say STUCK?!?
Do you know the feeling?
When I am stuck, I can't seem to see a way out.
Every choice seems to lead back to the same outcomes.
For me, that usually looks like two businesses, stuck at around $1.5mm of revenue, way too busy, making good money, but not keeping very much of it and not really feeling as if I'm getting anywhere.
Now for some of you reading this, you're going to think “I'd love to be stuck there!”
And, yes, it's not a bad place to be stuck, but stuck is stuck is stuck. And, it's all relative.
That's a key thing to remember so you don't get stuck in comparison despair (a place I often get stuck myself) and think that you can't have the life you want because you have less than me, or haven't gotten to where I am in my life and businesses.
Remember, I started off with no special resources or skills. Came from a family with all sorts of issues and problems. And, used the coping strategies that I learned growing up with the family I did to create what I now have.
And, I've even let it all go, filed bankruptcy and rebuilt again from the space of nothing.
We can all create anything we desire from wherever we are, when we are willing to see where we are creating our stuck points and make different, conscious choices.
If you do find yourself looking at my stuck place and feeling jealousy, envy or judgment, simply notice that and see it as a pointer to more of what you might want for yourself.
One of the best ways to get unstuck is to come into clarity around what you truly want.
And I find one of the best ways for me to do that is noticing where I am judging or jealous of what someone else has!
For others of you reading this, you've far surpassed my stuck place and you've got more money, more time freedom, and yet you're still finding yourself stuck, repeating the same patterns again and again and again and feeling unfulfilled.
That's the first key, noticing where you are stuck.
And beginning to notice where you keep getting to the exact same place, over and over and over again.
Because from that noticing, you can begin to look at the choices that lead you to that place repeatedly.
So, back to what gets me stuck in this same place again and again and again. I get stuck when I make decisions from fear.
I get stuck when I don't own my true desires. I get stuck when I choose my next course of action based on what people will think of me, rather than based on what I truly want.
I get stuck when I'm a perfectionist. And a control freak. And when I don't trust people because I've been burned in the past.
I get stuck when I let comparison despair get me down. And when I forget my vision.
I get stuck whenever I blame anyone else for my results.
Now that I see where I get stuck, I can shift it.
Tomorrow, I'll share with you how that works so you can begin to notice where you get stuck and shift your stuck places too.
Feel free to comment and let me know where your stuck place is. Where you keep getting to again and again and don't seem to be able to move beyond.
Together, we can create something new. And, ultimately, be the change we want to see in the world.
Talk again tomorrow.