Time has been on my mind this week.
Sixteen years ago, Halloween 1999, I went into the hospital, a slow leak in my amniotic sac, and the doctors decided it was time for my baby girl to be born. 28 hours later, I gave up my birth plan, and Kaia was born via C-Section on Nov 2, 1999.
Tonight, I hosted her sweet 16. My 42nd birthday is in just a few weeks.
Time is on my mind.
Did I use these years well? Could I do better?
Yes and yes.
If I had it to do all over again, knowing what I know now, I would do a lot exactly the same.
What I would do differently is stress less about not enough time and learn sooner how to better manage it.
My ability to manage time (sometimes it almost seems like bending time given how many things I am often juggling at once) could seem like a superpower, unattainable to most.
But it’s not. I have created a system that is likely to quadruple your productivity while at the same time freeing up more space in your life for the things that truly nourish you.
In honor of my daughter’s 16th birthday and my BIRTHday 16 years ago, its my gift to share with you my system for how to manage your time like a single mom with two businesses, two teenagers, a relationship that requires dedicated attention, and a large extended community.
Are you ready to stop feeling as if you don’t have enough time and become a time ninja?
They key is a methodology I have learned called time blocking. And what it means is that EVERYTHING you need and want to go goes on your calendar.
If it’s not on your calendar, it doesn’t happen. Period. That includes kids activities, job duties or business tasks, massages and meals. Everything but sleep.
If someone else handles your calendar, their life is about to get way better because they’ll be able to see exactly when you have blocked to schedule specific types of meetings and events that are integral to your work and life.
We have found that what works best is to create a template calendar in google calendar and share it with everyone who schedules on your calendar.
Mine looks like this.
Then, I have a calendar where things are actually scheduled.
You can see that here:
And I also have one for the kids activities.
When you look at them altogether, it could look insanely full or overwhelming, but I have found that a small amount of complexity allows me to create so much more time that it’s worth it.
You are worth it.
And thanks to this time blocking I’ve implemented, I now typically only work from 10-6, with flexibility in the day when I need it, and time to spend with my kids, in my relationship and with my community. Plus, the ability to travel.
If you want more time, this is where you start.
I want to know what questions you have about time blocking and how you can manage your time like a ninja.
Then I’ll make a training as my gift to you to ensure you don’t just desire more time, but that you can actually have it.
It has been 16 years since my baby was born. And the time keeps on tickin’, tickin’, tickin’ into the future. Let’s harness that ticking and funnel it into the work you are here to do and the life you are really here to have.
What’s it going to take for you to take back your most valuable asset? Seriously, let me know! E-mail in at email@example.com
With so much love,
About Alexis Neely
Alexis Neely, artist name, Ali Shanti, is a bridge between the generations. She graduated first in her law school class from Georgetown, and today uses her law degree to uplevel the consciousness of the legal field and the value for people being served by lawyers. Alexis serves as a catalyst for new ways of thinking; she is a paradigm-shifter, lawyer, mom, author, and permission giver who is bringing forward radically new and much needed perspectives on how we make decisions about money, time, work, relationships, parenting, and business. She offers her personal experiences with living a new paradigm, ‘road less traveled’ life to serve as a model of what’s possible when we allow all of ourselves to show up fully in family, life, and business.